Jahez ki Haqeeqat aur Uske Nuqsanat (Reality of Dowry)
This was also the list which I had shared with a colleague of mine who got married just after I did. She told me this was very handy so I decided to share it here so you can also benefit from it. My family, my husband nor my brother-in-law believe in such traditions. My husband was sweet enough to tell me during our engagement time that he is not marrying me for any such reasons.
In Pakistan, most weddings comprise of Mehendi, Shadi and Walima. It is best to minimize the functions to save yourself and others time, energy and a lot of money.
We have to be very careful and set up our own budget according to our means and stay within that, no matter what. Research has revealed that there is a much higher percentage of those marriages failing which had an extravagant wedding function.
It is often our own misunderstanding that if we buy from a famous designer, we will save up on a lot of hassle. I know of countless cases where well-known designers also gave a really rough time to clients and they had to pay ten times more.
The list is as follows in order of priority. At this point, you can give them a rough idea of no. Final total no. If you want your own choice of background music, like I did you will have to work on that too and hand it over to them before the wedding.
It is probably the hardest job of all to look for your wedding dress ideas and inspiration. I suggest that we should search, experiment on ourselves and decide on what colour lipstick we want on that day.
We should also have an idea of what hairstyle we want. These should be conveyed and their pictures shown to the makeup artist before they start. Buying and keeping Gold jewelry is a very big responsibility.
Its Zakat is due every year which is a bit complicated to calculate. Its payment is mandatory. We have to always keep it locked and also invest in a locker with yearly fees. So try to have as less of it as possible. I have learned the hard way that you lose a lot of money in selling Gold Jewelry. So honestly I feel that it is a very poor kind of investment. At the time of selling it, they will break it all up in front of you, you will get nothing for any stones on it.
Even rubies, emeralds will be broken off it along with your heart when you see them hammering it all up into pieces. You will also lose out on all wastage and labour cost you paid at the time of buying it.
I suggest women should invest in other ways. Keeping in view the above, I think we should only buy jewelry for our wedding day. There are amazing Kundan, Silver sets available which you can buy for formal occasions. Gold jewelry fashions change very quickly so keeping sets in your locker for years is not a good idea anyway. Social media is a great place to look for the best photographers in your town. Get the rates and book the one that suits you best.
In our case, both my sisters are professional photographers so they wanted to cover our bridal shoot. We hired one for the event. With the help of my sisters, we thought of making cards ourselves and after a lot of hard work, we finalized the following. I literally spent some hours at the printing shop as I manually got them all printed myself there.
Our Mehendi card Our Shadi card 8- Formal dresses Plan very well how many and what type of dresses you require. Try to keep them as less as possible. Trends and fashions change very quickly. Even un-stitched suits become old fashioned very soon. I would suggest that at the most one should get ten formal dresses made.
In case you are moving abroad, they should be even fewer. They are available in the latest fashion and you can stay up to date. This includes buying cosmetics, nightwear, intimate garments, shoes, purses, casual wear clothes. If you want a specific type of Mehendi and want to avoid the risk, then you should print out the designs you like best and ask the person to make those ones.
If someone comes home on Mehendi morning, then brides family and friends can also get it done. The groom is often given a watch and In-laws are given sarees or suits. Conclusion I understand a desi wedding has too many nitty gritty details as well which need to be planned. I hope you could relate. This was all for today. Did this post help you a little in your wedding preparations?
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Wedding Preparations Priority List
I am quite sure a lot of you pretty ladies out there, are planning a winter wedding too. As our bridal campaigns roar and we get bookings for bridal make up, I am doing a series of wedding prep blogs to get you started. Here is my ultimate wedding checklist: Budgeting The first step to planning any wedding is to know exactly what kind of budget you are working with. This helps you in the long run as you decide how much to spend on your dresses, make up, venue — well pretty much everything right?
As you plan your wedding you will realize you can get some great things done, even in a limited budget. In fact I encourage you to save on the wedding and splurge on your honeymoon!
Bridal Dresses Your dresses for the occasions should be your top priority, this need to be decided and placed on top priority. I have heard a ton of awful stories with brides booking their wedding dresses too late and ending up not getting exactly what they desired so before you go hunting for anything else, go hunting for your wedding dress.
But if you are getting hitched in the summer, play it safe with an indoor venue. Caterers Food is one of the most important part of any desi wedding, you know it, I know it, well pretty much everyone who has been to a desi wedding knows that the FOOD is essential.
Even though we have many restrictions these days, you have to take care of your guests by taking care of the food. Make up This one is a major essential too, but considering most makeup artists take multiple brides in a day, you may get a chance to be thorough on this one.
Scratch that, make inviting your guests more personal and add to your memory box an eternal, tangible memory of your big day.
Photographer Coverage Never compromise on the guy who is going to store in time, your most memorably day. These were just some of the most essential checklist points for desi weddings, I suggest you start a wedding book and make sure you take everything down.
Wedding Shopping List for Pakistani Brides – 2018
Kitne Afosos ki Baat Hai Mere azeez bhaiyo! Kyu hum shariyat ka pakiza huqm bhul gaye ke islam me mehar ada karne ka hukm hai jo ki ladki ka haq hai ke usey mehar miley. Ab sawal ye aata hai ke agar Susuraal Maaldar ho aur wo Apne Damad ko kuch tohfa dena chahte ho tou kya lena durust hai?.
Beharhaal isme koi harz nahi! Mere Azeezo! Allah Rabbul Izzat aise logon ko ruswa nahi karega. Ek inqlaab aayega. Pakistani bridal dresses are available in all kinds and colors these days. But it is your big day, you should go for the color and style that you love to make your day memorable. Once you have chosen your dress, you can pick the perfect clutch that complements your dress and satisfy your aesthetic needs.
Bridal clutches are also available in all colors these days so brides have no problem finding the right one that matches their dress. Jewelry and Accessories: Which woman does not love jewellery? And bridal jewelry sets these days are worth swooning over.
“The Ultimate Desi Wedding Check List” by Redah Misbah
You can get them customized in any way you want to match your dress. Shoes and Handbags: They say give a woman the right shoes and she can conquer the world. Heels, straps, embroidered soles, you can easily find bridal shoes that are no less fancy than your wedding dress. And voila, by following this list you would have accomplished the most important tasks on your wedding list. After that, you can remove the look of worry from your face and await the big day with no stress in your way.
There are still many other decisions and wedding planning things which need your attention. You want a beautiful venue for your wedding, home decore for mehndi and mayon girly gathering events and a lot more.
Thank You I hope you will be working on it with suggestions of your family and friends too. Everything will be going smooth this way! All the best to the girls who are going to marry soon.